Hamburger Helper…

13 Dec

…helps hamburger help her.  Remember that?  Am I showing my age?

So it’s 5:30 pm.  You just remembered that you have to feed your family, again.  You haven’t thought about what to eat, but somehow you feel guilty throwing frozen fish sticks and a bag of cheetos at them.  You have that frozen brick of ground beef burning a hole in your freezer.

I have your answer.  This is the pinch-hit you need on your repetoire when you are very low on the gaf-meter, but not low enough to call for pizza.

This is the easiest one-pot meal you can make and you don’t even need one of those insta machines to do it. You have everything you need in your freezer and fridge right now.

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1 chopped onion
1 hunk of ground meat (I use 2 lbs, but we have 7 eaters)
1 bag of frozen kale (approx 1 fresh bunch per pound of meat)**
Cheese.  Lots of shredded cheese.
SPICES:
Salt, pepper and garlic powder to taste.    
Cumin + Curry powder (1 tbsp each, per pound of meat)

Get out a big pot. Sauté the onion in a few tbsps of oil.  Add the ground beef and kale.  (If beef is frozen, you’ll want to defrost it in the mike for a few minutes.)  Brown the beef.  Add salt, pepper, garlic powder, cumin and curry…stir frequently until it’s all cooked.  Stir in a large handful of shredded cheese. 

Notes: Honestly you can pick any spice here…you can be pretty creative.  This is a great time to try out one of those spice combos they’ve come out with: Rogan Josh, Ras-el-Hanout, Southwestern Ranch, etc.  Anything will be good.
Season heavily: about a tablespoon of spice per pound of meat.
Bowl it up, and top with as much cheese as you like.


**I buy fresh chopped kale in the salad section, and freeze it for smoothies or “Hamburger Helper” night.  It is about 5 cups.
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 Bam.  Just fed the family…took 14 minutes.  Eating healthy does not mean you also have to be creative every night, too.  This is a skeleton of a recipe…consider topping it with a fried egg,  or using the leftovers in a breakfast scramble, in egg cupcakes, or throw it in a couple cups of bone broth for a filling soup.   For another easy grab-the-hamburger dinner, check out these Creamy Curry Meatballs.  

 

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If you have these five ingredients….

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And these spices needing to be used up…

Then dinner’s almost done.

 

Keeping it real over here, 
Leigh 

Why I No Longer Pray for Patience in Parenting

5 Dec

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I don’t learn my life-lessons that quickly.  Wouldn’t it be nice to just read some instructions in a book, the close the cover, walk away and say to myself “got it, I will never make that mistake again.”  I usually have to walk the road–the long way–for any lessons to truly internalize.  This is a story about one of these long journeys.

Over the years I’ve been searching incessantly for patience in my mothering.  I have poured over parenting books and scripture, and I have prayed the same prayers over and over.

“Lord give me patience.”

“Lord, please let me respond in patience.”

“Lord supply me with the patience I need to answer them properly.”

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When it comes to bad kid-behavior, I am so predictable in my response patterns.  There are three levels: normal voice with a calm tone, outside voice with a serious tone, nuclear explosion.  
Normal. 
Serious…
Nuclear.

 Sometimes I can stay on serious-mode for three or four iterations, until I remember that I haven’t used my nuclear setting, and then they get a double portion of nuclear, which is followed by a brief period of time when I about black out.  Figuratively.  And to top it off, there is that back-blast of guilt and grief that always knocks me over. Anger in parenting is such a nasty cycle.

 

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There’s probably more than one reason my clever three-level correction plan hasn’t been working.  For one thing, I have allowed very irritating behavior to proliferate without giving it actual correction beyond verbal chastisement.  (Although, we recently completed a “manners boot camp” that truly changed things around here, and I think it will have lasting results…)  But aside from that, I’ve usually hovered over the old “give me patience” refrain in hopes that it will be the magic solution to fielding all the drama going down around me.

I’ve been living with constant waves of disappointment in them and myself.  It’s pretty difficult to enjoy my children in this craziness.  A couple of days ago, I asked the Lord why I don’t have any patience after all my begging for it.  And I got an answer so strong in my spirit that I knew it could only be His voice.  It said:

Stop asking for patience all the time. 
You should be asking for eyes to see the good.

For me that was a mic-drop.

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This whole time, I’ve been begging for patience to help me bear the horrible childish behavior in my home.  I’ve been waiting for a bunch of stand-alone good moments to add up and outscore the seemingly zillions of irritating moments…and the tally remains askew day after day after day.  It would be irresponsible of me to just “have patience” with the sin.  It would be damaging to overlook it–I do have to hold them accountable.  But since I have had this shift in my prayer/thought life, there is a peace that settles over these exasperating situations.  

  • To see the good, I have to look for it intertwined with all the sin. 
  • Good things are alive amidst the turmoil. 
  • In order to see the greatest amount of good around me, I gotta remember that it will be happening at the same time as the chaos is going down.

I have been missing it.  No longer.

He is bringing the good things before my eyes in droves.  I won’t spell them out for you, because they are personal to my experience.  But rest assured, in the heat of the bad moments, the morsels of good rise to the top and neutralize what would become an otherwise nuclear situation.  

And I think He has given me a mini-glimpse into how He sees.
Beauty is everywhere and it is enmeshed with all the ugliness that exists here on the Earth.   

But let’s not simplify it.  He redeemed the bad.  My personal life is a mire, so only through the lense of the Cross can He see the good that is here.  May I never forget that the restored relationship was so crushingly costly to Him.  I am enjoying a lifetime of approval that I SO did not earn.

So while I must still sort through all the nasty habits in my home (which include my own!) it’s coming from a much less irritated place.  My hair-trigger nuke dropper is under far better control. 

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In an effort to journal my development of eyes that see the good, I have been listing my children’s good deeds in my journal/iPhone notes app.  When I look purposefully, it’s much easier to see their kindnesses in action.  (They don’t jump out at me…because good acts are far quieter than the crazy-chaos-naughty acts.)  When I see it, I jot it.  After a couple of days, I have a lengthy list of their good moments in front of me, and this warms me to them.  Love can keep a record of rights, can’t it?  

One time, I even did a little ceremony at dinner by openly recognizing each child’s list during the week.  They didn’t know I was watching.  They were so proud of themselves and each other, and I could tell it was satisfying that their kindnesses did not go unnoticed.

It hurts my heart that I have not been congratulating them very often for the unseen/unheard good acts.  

Also, I am going to use my Instagram from time to time, using the hashtag #eyespursuinggood.  You’ll know that when I have posted an #eyespursuinggood pic, it’s because it was a moment of testing.  I am NOT here to brag on social media about my beautiful life. On the contrary — it will be because I am currently eyeing something good in order to diminish something bad that’s just gone down.

Will you join me?  If you are already my Insta follower, then this is what the tag is about.  If not, let’s add each other and get our eyes set on seeing good things.

I am humbled to have made progress in this area of my motherhood journey…I had to take the long road on this one, but it was worth it.

Leigh

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I have a beautiful walking path beside my home. #eyespursuinggood

Tangy Pistachio Herb Dressing

19 Nov

Instead of posting some traditional paleo-fied Thanksgiving week recipe, I am going to share a salad dressing that is TO DIE FOR.  Everyone asks me for this recipe. Put this on your menu and you’ll have the ultimate dressed greens.  And then make it again afterward, and slather it on all your post-holiday detox salads.  

If you have been following for a while, you may notice that it is similar to the Chimichurri recipe I shared a few years ago.  By similar, I mean exactly the same, but it’s updated with some adjusted amounts.  (The original chimichurri is pure divinity.  Can be paired with any meat…in fact, you could even make it to eat with your turkey this week, and your whole meal will be a home run.) img_3072

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Look at all the goodness infused into this!

1 c olive oil
1/4 c white (or red) wine vinegar
juice of 2 limes
1 large shallot
1 garlic clove
2 seeded jalapenos 
1 1/2 c fresh cilantro (throw in stems)
1 1/2 c fresh italian parsley (don’t worry about stems)
1/4 c shelled pistachios (makes it creamy)
1 tsp kosher salt (I use more)

Place ingredients in a blender/food processor  in the order listed.  A Vitamix will make it velvety smooth…If you don’t have a Vitamix there will still be bits of unpulverized herbs, but it will still taste amazing!

 

It’s so verdant.  The flavors in this dressing are so rich and vibrant, the texture is so creamy.  I was licking the spatula clean before I did the dishes.  My kids love it too (I’ll spare you the picture proof) and even though it contains jalapenos, it’s not spicy.  There’s one last reason I love this recipe: I feel like a boss shopping for it at the farmers market.  🙂  So, it’s a home run all around.  Yet again, I have to give a shout out to my long-lost friend Val for sharing her wealth of culinary knowledge with me, and allowing me to tell you all about it!

Enjoy!  
Leigh

p.s. For another kale salad and brussels sprouts recipe that is a wonderful crowd pleaser, check out this one.  

 

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